Yesterday I was talking to me friend about our Summer Bucket list. I told him that I want to make a life bucket list. He told me if he did that he would get depressed because he would think about dying. This made me think of something Morrie said from Tuesdays With Morrie, the book I am currently reading. He repeats throughout the book, “Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.” This is such a profound statement but I really have no idea what it means.
How do you learn how to die without actually being in a position of dying? What does it even mean to learn how to die? I wish I could have talked to Morrie to find the answers to these questions. The only thing that I do understand about Morrie’s statement is that people who are dying seem to always have a deeper appreciation for life. They know their time is limited and make the most of every second they have. They can sit on their porch and be fascinated by the simple joys of nature such as a bird flying by.
Why is it that to reach this deeper appreciation we need to go through a life changing event such as a terminal illness or the death of someone close to us? I try to slow down and really appreciate what I have in my life and make the most of my time but I do not feel like I am at that level of deeper appreciation. I don’t really know how to get to that level where you appreciate everything you have but that is one of my goals. I have never had one of those life changing events and I am grateful for that but I have to figure how to reach that appreciation without one.
This seems like it will be a hard thing to do but I don’t need easy I just need possible. I am going to keep working at it. I am going to slow down even more and realize even more things that I should be grateful for in my life. I think that is the point that Morrie was making: when you learn how to die you learn to appreciate the your life. When you learn to appreciate your life you truly start living.
I am going to learn how to die. It might take me a while and it is going to be hard but once I do, it will be worth it. Once I learn how to die I will learn how to live. I challenge you to do the same. Have you ever felt that deep level of appreciation in your life? How did you do it?