Did you ever wonder about soul mates? Now that is February and the season of love, I am sure a lot of people are wondering about a wide range of topics that have to do with love. In dedication to the month of romance I am going to make all my Wednesday Wonders about love and romance. Since this is definitely not my area of expertise, considering I am not much of the romantic type, we will see how this goes. So I start it off with soul mates.
Everyone who is interested in falling in love and getting married probably wants it to be with their soul mate. However, what exactly is a soul mate and do they even exist? There are so many different theories about soul mates most of which I have a problem with.
Let’s start with the most common theory which is that there is someone out there that completes us. This theory started with Plato. In one of his writings he tells a story of how humans use to be two humans in one. The gods, fearing our strength, split us in two leaving us destined to look for our other half our whole lives. This is a cute story and great for romance but I am a realist so let’s get real. If that is the case then there is only one person in the world that is our soul mate. There are over 6 billion people in the world; the odds of finding your soul mate as the odds that one random person will walk up to you and give you a million dollars no strings attached. Odds aside, maybe you are really luck and your soul mate happens to live next to you and not on the other side of the world, what happens if your soul mate dies? Are you just let to search for someone who no longer exists? That would suck wouldn’t it?
That brings me to my next theory: that there are multiple soul mates for everyone. So if one dies, it’s just on to the next one. My problem with that is what happens when you meet your soul mate, fall in love, get married, and then you meet another one of your soul mates? Do you just make them your best friend? How does that work? How do you even tell if they are your soul mate? So often when people are in a relationship they say they love their partner but once they break and find a new partner that they love more, they say they didn’t know what love was. Can’t this happen with you soul mate? You can meet someone who you think is your soul mate until you meet your real soul mate. What do you do at that point?
So now matter what the theory is that point still is valid, how do you tell that the person is your soul mate? I don’t believe the answer of you “just know” because you can “just know” about one person and a year later you break up you find out you were wrong . However, I have heard one theory of soul mates that I may accept. It is my friend’s theory, which is that soul mates are not destined but created. As you spend enough time with someone, they develop and grow into your soul mate. I guess it would be as you and your soul grow, theirs grow with you and they become connected. It makes sense and I cannot really find and argument with it. Even though I can’t argue with my friend’s theory, I still don’t know if I am sold on the whole soul mate thing. I guess only time can tell.
Do you have your own theory on soul mates?