In the beginning of this blog, my aim was to find my passion. Although it turned into something so much more than that, that is still one of my goals. I have come a long way in this aspect of my journey but I still have some work to do. However, I have learned a few lessons along the way that could help in finding passion. These are those lessons:
- Look at what you don’t want: If you are trying to find your passion but it is hard for you to pin point it, try to look at the things you absolutely hate. For example, one of my passions is fitness. This is something I know and can easily identify with. One reason I can see this so clearly is because I hate not being able to work out. If I am injured for any reason bad enough for me to stop working out, I go crazy. Maybe one of the things you hate is when people are suffering. This could mean you are passionate about helping others. Notice some things you hate and think about the opposite and how you feel.
- Look at what you already have: I recently heard that there could be two reasons why you don’t know what you want. The first reason is because you already have it. The second reason I will get to in a minute (time may vary with reading ability). People always talk about finding their passion but maybe it is not about finding their passion just realizing that something they already do is part of their passion.
- Stop doing something: One way to realize if something we are doing is your passion is to stop doing it. Sometime we may do something so much we just assume it is our passion. This isn’t always true. To figure out how important it is to you, stop doing it for a while. See how this affects you. Do you go crazy and feel less happy like I do with working out? Or are you alright not doing whatever it is you considered you passion? How would you feel if the next day whatever it is was no longer an option for you?
- Don’t focus on things that are not important: This is the second reason why we don’t know what we want. We are so spread out doing so many different things that we cannot focus on what we really want. A good way to get around this is to learn to say no. You do not always have to do everything everyone asks you. Really look at your life and the things you are involved in. Are all of them important to you?
- Explore all options: Knowledge is key. This is a way to gain more knowledge. Explore every option that you are even remotely considering. See what it is like and if you really enjoy it. Sometimes we get the idea in our head that we would love this or love that but the idea turns out better than the reality. Explore and see which is better.
- Evaluate yourself: I have found that this one is the most important: understand yourself. Look to see when you are at your highest point and when you are at your lowest point. For example, I began to realize that I was my happiest and most energetic when I was around others and making people smile. This was a good indicated about my passion for people and influencing them. Look at yourself and see when you are at your best.
- Fine Similarities: Review all of the things that are important to you and all of the things you do most frequently. Discover any similarities that they may have. You may have to go beyond the surface to find them but there will be some. This could lead you to the root of you passion.
- Realize things change: You can change, your perspectives can change, and your experiences can change. This also means your passions can change. So if you don’t feel as strongly as you once did about something that is okay. You do not need to commit to one thing for the rest of your life. Well except your spouse, but that is a different story. However, just because it can change doesn’t mean it will and you can be passionate about something for the rest of your life (So don’t worry future wife!)
I am still figuring out the details of where I want my life to go and trying to decide which path is right for me but these lessons have certainly helped. They are things that I need to keep in mind for my future and always remember. Your passion can change you may have to discover it again. No matter what though, never stop the journey. Have you found any helpful lessons on your journey?