With my triathlon training in full throttle now, I have been feeling some pain lately. The other day it hit me bad when I was on a run. It was one of the really hot days we had last week and I thought it was great running weather. In the middle of my run, I stop at a park and did some body weight exercises. After the exercises I was exhausted. However, I still had to run about two miles to get home. This is where the pain set in. I thought I wasn’t going to make it home I was so drained. I kept going though. In the middle of my struggle I had a moment of clarity where I thought to myself, why am I doing this? Why am I putting my body through this? That’s when it hit me, not the runner’s wall that hit me about a mile earlier. In that moment of clarity I realized that pain is only temporary but regret, regret can last forever.
The pain I was feeling in my legs and the exhaustion I felt in my body would only last until the end of the day or maybe a couple of days afterwards. However if I stopped on that run or gave up on this triathlon because I cannot master the swim, I would regret it. No matter what kind of pain I feel throughout this training I know I have to push through it. I have a goal to challenge myself, push myself to a new level of fitness and giving up is not an option. If I give up I will always be looking back on what I could have done. I will always wonder what my true potential was and if I could have reached it. This may have happened to you in the past. Maybe you went on a diet and gave up before you reached your goal. Now you are left to wonder how far you could have pushed. This is why I will not give up. I will reach my goal and push past the pain.
This concept is not just for physical training though. This is a concept for life. When you go to chase your dreams, I am sure there are going to be times when it is painful. There are going to be times when you just want to give up because you ask yourself, “Why am I doing this?” At this point you have two options. The first option is to give up. You can take the easy way out. By taking the easy way out, you are saving yourself from one pain but causing yourself different pain. It will cause you to always look back and wonder what would have happen if you stuck it out. It will cause you to think of what could have been. Lastly, it will cause you to live with the pain of settling.
There is that second option though: you can push past the pain and follow your dreams. This second option is much harder but nothing worthwhile comes easy. Whether your dream is to become a doctor, be the next Steve jobs, or become the greatest magician ever (After seeing Now You See Me, I am a bit obsessed with magic. This is why I keep bringing it up in case you noticed), I am sure there is going to be times when you want to give up. The pain of all the sleepless nights in the library, the pain of one failed idea after another, the pain of having a hard time finding a gig; this pain can make you want to quite. You have to realize though that this pain will not last forever. If you push past this pain and never give up, you cannot lose. You only lose once you stop going after what you really want. You will reach your dreams one day and turn them into a reality. You will never have to wonder “what if” because you will be living that if.
In life we are faced with many challenges, some challenges we cannot control. However, how we react to these challenges is up to us. You can either choice to push through the pain these challenges bring with them or you can give up and live in regret. I just want you to remember, pain is only temporary but regret, regret can last forever.
Did you ever wonder about our dreams? Why do we dream? What do they mean? Are the really representations of unconscious desires?
Dreams are so fascinating to think about. While I lie there on the pillow doing my best to fall asleep, I often wonder what I will dream about. One night I might be on an alien planet fighting a dragon. One night I might be on the best date of my life with the girl of my dreams (you see what I did there). One night I might just be living a normal day of my life interacting with people who are but a memory from my past. One night, I might not remember my dream and the next night I may not even dream at all.
What are these images that pop into our head while we sleep and what do they mean? Freud would tell us that our dreams represent the wants that we keep hidden in our unconscious mind. If you dream of falling out of a tree, it could represent your fear of failing at a project you are currently undertaking. However if our dreams are a way for our minds to reveal the secrets that we keep from ourselves to us, why do our minds disguise it? Why don’t our minds just paint a clear picture for us so that we know exactly what our dreams mean?
Where do these dreams come from and why do they happen? In the middle of our sleep a movie starts to play in our head where we are usually the starring role. Out of seemingly nowhere images just fly around our head of things we think we may or may not we have seen before. Maybe our mind is just processing information like a computer and we are lucky enough to see it; but maybe it is something far beyond our understanding that causes us to dream. Consider the fact that we can be put in situations in our dreams that are far greater or worse than anything we could come up with by just using our imagination. Isn’t that amazing?
How come we cannot remember some of our dreams? Isn’t that the worst when you remember having a really good dream but you cannot remember the details? Even worse is when you are in the middle of a wonderful dream and you wake up. We have all tried to fall back asleep to continue living in our dream world but it just doesn’t work. How come we cannot get back into our dream or can some people fall back into their dream world? They say some people can control their dreams. If that is true then wouldn’t it just be like living another life; a life where you could see how different situations work out and do something new if you fail. Wouldn’t that be awesome, a way to test out your plans in a real life situation without the real life consequences?
That brings me to another question: why do dream feel so real sometime? I know there has been multiple times where I have woken up from a dream and was confused that I was in my dorm room instead of the forest where my dream was taking place. What if they are feel so real because they are real. What if when we dream we enter another dimension where we actually do experience what we dreamt? If this where the case then the life we think we are living could just be the dream of our other dimensional selves.
That makes me wonder, what if life were just a series of dreams? We live our life only to find ourselves waking up at the end of it and finding out that it was all a dream. There is so many different things to think about when thinking about dreams, I feel like I could go on forever with questions like these. I guess that is what happens when you are forced to sit in a class talking about the banking system you could not care less about; your mind just wanders or wonders. Did you ever wonder about your dreams or come up with your own theory behind dreams?
The other day I watched this Youtube video. It made revisit a concept I talked about in one of my first posts. You can read that here if you would like. It is about how mind-boggling it is that every second is another moment of our life. Every second holds so much potential to turn into something great, something life altering. However in the blink of an eye, the second is gone. How can something so little have so much potential?
This video made me think of this more. Not only is it amazing that every second, this small amount of time, is a moment in our lives; but the decisions we make in these seconds can affect us forever and completely change our lives. Every second we make decisions that seem meaning less but can mean so much. Which route to take to class, which bus we get on, what time to do something; all these decisions are decisions we make every day that without realizing what the results could be.
What if you take a different route to class and meet your soul mate along the way? What if you take one bus over another and the other bus gets into an accident? What if you decided to look at the paper for job listings instead of tomorrow and find your dream job? All these decision are made in split seconds and some are unconsciously.
This is why we need to strive to make every second count. When you are in class, at work, or in traffic make your seconds count. Find the best us of those seconds even if it is just having a conversation with a stranger; you never know what you might learn. Take every opportunity the second it presents itself because, like in the video, it could be gone the next second. Go after your dreams this second because you do know how many more you have. Don’t wait for tomorrow when you have plenty of seconds today. There are 86,400 seconds in a day. Now stop counting them and start making them count.
Arthur, the man in this video, went through an amazing transformation that many, including experts, told him could not happen. He refused to accept that he wouldn’t be able to walk unassisted again. He wanted to change his life and knew it was possible. He knew it wasn’t going to be easy and he fell many times but the key was he got right back up. The part that inspires me the most is when he tried to walk. He fell right on his face. At this point many people would give up but he did not. He knew that “if he couldn’t do it today, that doesn’t mean he wouldn’t be able to do it someday.” Imagine if everyone had that type of attitude. Imagine all we would accomplish.
The other day I was playing basketball with my younger neighbor who is just entering high school next year. We were catching up after I had been away at school all year. I asked him if he knew what he wanted to do later in life and he said be in the NFL and followed it up quickly with “but I will probably be a math teacher.” I didn’t think about it then but I wish I did because if he wants to he can get into the NFL. Yes, it wouldn’t be easy but it is possible and as Arthur demonstrates, that is all you need.
If you have a dream you have to go for it. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. The only things you can’t do in life are the things that are impossible and that is a very small list.
However, if you listen to the people who tell you that you can’t, then they are right because if you want something and it isn’t easy you are going to need to put your all into it. When the other people are taking a break, you have to be in there working hard. When the others give up because they did it wrong too many times, you have to do it until you get it right. When you feel like giving up, you have to dig deep and decided if you really want you dream. When no one else believes in you, you have to believe in yourself.
I am a firm believer in the old cliché you can accomplish whatever you put your mind too. Once I figure out what I want to put my mind to I am going to work as hard as I can to make sure it happens. I challenge you to do the same. Has there ever been a time where someone told you that you can’t do something and you proved them wrong? How did it feel?
People always say I am going to do this and I am going to do that, once the right moment comes; when this happens, I will make that happen. But why do people have to wait for the right moment? Why does everything have to be exactly right to do something that you want to do? What happens if that moment never comes? Will you just give up on your dreams and forget about whatever it is you wanted to do? In life we have a limited amount of moments and we cannot sit around wasting them waiting for the right one to come along. We cannot wait for the right moment to happen, we have to go out and make it happen.
To make the right moment happen we have to go outside our comfort zone, we have to try new things, we have to take chances, and we have to be amazing. I think this is why a lot of us do not make their moments happen: we are afraid. We are afraid that they cannot be amazing. We believe we are average and will never be anything more and you know something, we are right. We will never be anything more than average if we do not stop waiting. Michael Jordon did not just sit around and wait to get better at basketball. Steve Jobs did not sit around and wait for someone else to build the Apple empire. Beyoncé Knowles did not sit around and wait for someone to discover her talent. All these people did not wait, they took action. They were not afraid of failing because they knew that if they did not give it a shot, they would fail anyway. No matter what you or anyone else does, you will never accomplish your goals if you do not give the effort to make them happen and stop waiting.
Waiting is just wasting time, time that could be spent doing what you want to do. Whether you want to do a new sport, join a new club, meet a new person, or become a doctor; you have to go out and make it happen. Stop looking for excuses on why it is not the right time and see the reasons why you should make it the right time. Take advantage of the day and amaze yourself. Attempt to make yourself feel the nervousness that you feel when you are outside your comfort zone. Get those butterflies in your tummy because that is a sign that you are growing, learning, and making something happen.
I am tired of waiting, how about you?