On Friday, I went to see the new Batman movie, which was as amazing as I thought it would be. Batman has always been my favorite hero because he is the most realistic and I could totally see myself doing what he does (if I had all the cool stuff he did that made me invincible along with the training he had). It also doesn’t hurt that when Bruce Wayne isn’t Batman he is a billionaire playboy. To get back on topic, after seeing this movie I decided to watch the first Batman movie of the Christian Bale era. In this movie I was inspired by a profound statement. It is funny how many truly amazing profound statements can be found in super hero movies/ comics, such as the famous “with great power comes great responsibility.” The funny part is though that people feel silly using them because they are from a comic. However, they still hold true no matter the source but I am getting off track again. I guess I just have a bit of ADD today.
Anyway back to Batman. In the first movie, Batman Begins, Bruce’s friend says to him, “it is not who you are underneath, it’s what you do that defines you.” I will let that sink in for a minute. . . Think about what that statement says. You could be the nicest person in the world on the inside but that doesn’t matter if you don’t act upon it. It reminds me of the saying that the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
I find this quote so relevant to me in my live right now. Through my live and this blog, I am trying to figure out who I am and live according to the definition I see for myself. I write about a lot of different lessons I want to teach myself but the truth is I don’t always follow through with them. Yes, it is a lot easier said than done and sometimes I let things slide. This quote however, has opened my eye to how truly important it is to act as you want to be. To act in a way that who you are underneath is shown by what you do.
The first step to do this is to find a definition of yourself and who you want to be as a person. No, you do not have to be Mother Teresa or Gandhi but maybe you want to be a little kinder. I have come up with 5 values that I want to live by (click here if you want to see what those are). The next step is to make sure that I am not just trying to be them on the inside but that I am actually living by those values so that they can define me.
I am going to stop just thinking about who I want to be and make sure that I am actually being who I want to be. I am a firm believer in the cliché actions speak louder than words; so I am going to make sure my actions fit the definition of myself that I have underneath. Do you know who you want to be? Do your actions define who you are underneath?
If you think about it we are really lucky: humans that is. We are lucky because we are alive. Out of all the billions of planets and stars in the universe, we ended up on the one that is able to support us. We beat the odds of about one and a billion. However, I do not like to believe in luck. When people believe in luck, they see others’ accomplishments as luck instead of as a result of hard work and perseverance. Also, they stop themselves from going out and achieving their own goals because they would rather wait and let luck make them happen than make them happen themselves. So I do not believe that humans are lucky. Instead, I believe that humans, that each and every one of us, is here for a reason. Whether we know it or not, there is a reason that we landed on this rock in the middle of nowhere.
Mark Twain hard it right when he said “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.” Although I agree with Mr. Twain, the days in-between are also important. The way you live those days decides whether or not you find the reason that you are alive. You can live each day just going through the motions but it may be hard to find your purpose. However, you can live each day as if our days on this rock are not endless, because our days are not endless, and make the most of them. You can change things up, experience new activities, get new perspectives on life and search for your purpose. The path this takes you down may not be the easiest to travel but I only imagine what the end of that path looks like. Knowing that if I look and fight hard enough I can find out why I exist, I do not see to many other things more worth fighting for. I may not have found my purpose yet and I may not know how but I will not give up until I find it. If you find yourself asking how exactly to go about finding your purpose, my recent post Finding Your Passion may help give you a good starting point.
We all have already experienced our first most important day and I am going to fight to experience my second day. Is the second day worth the fight to you?
In my high school physics class, we were learning about displacement and my teacher, Mr. Peck, said something that introduced me to an interesting concept that I still think about today. Displacement in physics is simply the shortest and total distance between point A and point B. The path that is taken does not matter because the displacement is always the same. Now, I am sure that when my teacher said what he said he did not think it was going to leave a lasting impression on anyone nor was he trying to, but he did. What he said was a simple thought that did not really matter to me at the time but now that I think of it, it is quiet mind boggling. He said that our total displacement throughout the day is usually zero. This means that we did not go anywhere throughout the day and he was right. Usually we wake up in our beds and end up in our beds making our total displacement zero.
Isn’t that a fascinating thought to think that no matter what we do throughout the day our total displacement is zero? Actually, I do not think it is fascinating at all. I think that is a bit depressing. No matter how hard we work and no matter how much we accomplish we end up right where we started. This cannot be true, and it is not. Yes, we may end our days right where we started but we do not end our lives were we started. I will use myself as an example. Now that I am in college, I have a new bed which means a new place where I start my day. This bed is much different from where I started my life and my displacement over the years has been great. This is my message today that every day we may end up back in the same spot as where we started but some days we make huge moves that give us great displacement. Maybe on that day you are moving into your college dorm, like me. Maybe on that day you are moving to your own apartment for the first time, like my sister. Maybe one that day you are moving to your own house with your new wife, like my brother did many years ago.
After considering all of this, I realized that it is not about you displacement from day to day; it is about the distance you travel throughout the day. The distance you travel is your path. This path is what leads you to your next point of displacement and what leads to those days of huge moves. You can either take an easy path that will get you to a point B that is not as far as you wanted to go, but it will be easier; or you can take another path. You can take another path that is harder, another path were you will fail more, and another path were you will learn more. On this path you may want to give up and quit but if you stick with this path you will find a great point B that gives you the greatest life displacement.
We all have our path in life but it is not planned out. If we do not like where our path is heading we can always make a turn and start along a new path. The important part is to find the best path for you, the path that lets you find yourself and who you are, the path that will give you the greatest life displacement.
I just started looking for my best path, have you?