I want to apologize to all my loyal readers (mom I know you’re out there) for not writing last week. It was a combination of being a little busy packing and doing Resident Assistant stuff combined with the fact that I was not really inspired to write last week. I do not like to write when I am not inspired because the words don’t seem to come out right. Whenever I write a post and I am not really feeling it, I never like it. Have no fear though because I am back to motivate you and hopefully I won’t miss a day this summer but I am not making any promises.
So today’s post; I was once told that when you feel uncomfortable, that is a good feeling because it means you are growing. However, I usually- probably most of you as well- try to avoid situations that will make me feel uncomfortable. I have recently realized though that this is not good. I will never get past my weaknesses if I do not work on them. It is as if I am really bad at a sport but never play it because I am bad at it: I can’t get any better that way.
To further illustrate what I mean I will give an example. I have to be honest and tell you that I am a pretty awkward person in one on one situations. I know what you are thinking, it is hard to believe, I had a little trouble believing it too but it’s the truth. I am not like this with everyone, there are certain people who I am find around. However, put me with someone I do not know very well and there is sure to be a lot of awkward silences. Because of this, I usually tend to avoid situation where I will be one on one with someone. Whether it is going to dinner with someone or walking to class, the awkwardness can strike at any point. In order to get past this awkwardness, I need to put myself in these awkward situations and expose myself to these experiences more.
The more I expose myself the better I will become in these situation. I will learn how to fill the awkward silences and kept the conversation going better. I will never learn these skill if I do not put myself in these situation though. Think about yourself. Is there some skill you need to work on that you avoid using so that you do not feel uncomfortable? Maybe you are not good at talking on the phone, or maybe you do know how to be funny, or most commonly you aren’t good at public speaking. Isn’t that strange? I am fine with public speaking, one of the most common fears among adults, yet put me with one other person and I don’t know what to do with myself.
Anyway, my point is how do you expect to get better in any situation whether it be a social situation, a sport, a computer program, or anything else that you would need a skill for unless you put yourself in situations where you need to use and improve that skill. I challenge you to make yourself feel uncomfortable. Stepping outside you comfort zone is not only about taking chances and experiencing new things, it is about growing as well. Every time you step outside your comfort zone it grows a little bit. Join me in expanding my comfort zone by expanding your own as well. Yes, it’s probably going to get awkward and you bet you will feel uncomfortable but remember; life goes on. The awkward and uncomfortable moments you have now will just turn into funny stories to tell your friends later and they will most likely do you more good than harm. So go out there, be awkward, get uncomfortable, and expand your comfort zone.