We, as humans, have been raised to think that if we made a mistake it is a terrible thing. We did something wrong so we are not good enough or we are stupid. This influences the decision we make and the way we act. Sometimes, we want to do something so bad but we do not because we are afraid it is a mistake, something that shouldn’t be done. The other week, while thinking of a quote for my Motivation Monday here at school, I thought of something profound. You can always learn something from your mistakes, but you don’t learn anything from regret. Although I may have talked about this before or already understood the concept, this was the first time I said the idea plain and clear.
When we make decision in life, a lot of the times we think of the consequences and realize that one decision may be a mistake. So we pick the “safe” decision. We pick the decision that we think will bring the least amount of harm. I know that I do this all the time whether it is with a small seemingly unimportant decision or with the big obviously important decisions. Now maybe we do this because it helps us get where we want to be in life but maybe it also causes us to miss out on great memories. I am not saying go out and try to run from the cops every night doing something crazy. I am just saying it might be a good idea to step out of your comfort zone and make a mistake.
Item number 14 on my bucket list is “do something crazy,” and my fear of making a mistake has probably stopped me from crossing that one off. I have had the urge to do something crazy for a while. I do not exactly know how to define crazy and I have done some unusual things, such as give out free hugs all day, but I have not felt that craziness. I am too afraid that when I step outside my comfort zone, I will make a mistake that I will have to live with. Instead though, I live with the regret of not doing things I want to do.
Coming up on finals, it is my last week of my sophomore year of college. It felt like just yesterday my mom had tears in her eyes because she was dropping her baby off at college. Time flies and I have spent most of my time in college doing my best not to make a mistake. Although my time here has been great and I am very happy with live, I do not have any of those crazy college stories. You know, the stories that parents tell their kids when they are old enough. Yes, I know that this may just be a social pressure that kids have to these kinds of stories and that I do not really need them. However, sometimes I feel like I am missing something and that feeling can suck.
So, no more doing my best to avoid mistakes. I am not going to go out trying to make mistakes but if I really want to do something I am going to do it. I will still stick to my values, especially my absence from alcohol, and be the kind of person I want and have the potential to be. I will just add a little more excitement to my life and take some more chances. I also challenge you to ask yourself if you are missing out on life because you are afraid of making a mistake. Do you want to ask that person you see all the time out on a date but think it could end up being a mistake? Do you want to go on that vacation but think it would be a mistake to spend the money? Do you hate your job but think it would be a mistake to quit? Are you living with regret because you are afraid to make a mistake? Remember you can always learn from your mistakes, but you do not learn anything from regret and it is the things that we don’t do that we regret. So go out and make some mistake and live life without regret.